Saturday, 25 May 2013

Understanding MEF (Masochistic Emasculation Fetishism) aka “Feminization Fetish” or “Autogynephilia”.

The picture above, what is it that makes it sexually stimulating? How is the picture functioning within the experience of a person like myself? It is the anxiety of associating symbols of emasculation to oneself. This is therefore a fetish I call MEF (Masochistic Emasculation Fetishism).

Understanding “Gender”.

There is no inherent way in which gender signifies beyond the style “masculinity” and “femininity” happen to be differed from each other.

Historically “femininity” and “masculinity” derive from the female-like and the male-like, and this itself derives from culture coming to distinguish generalised notions of two types of bodies, in “female” and “male”. In our culture, people come to identify as female or male based on their physiological sex, and come to identify as a “gender” based on historical cultural associations related to either sex.

Regarding the fantasies in question, there are prevalent symbols and themes of emasculation which reflect wider culture, but anything perceived as emasculating is potential.

Understanding “Anxiety” & “Emasculation”.

For some, it feels as if there is a curious discrepancy setting apart overtly masochistic fantasy themes, which they may struggle to reconcile. The case is that the logic which constitutes the masochistic fantasy themes, is what also constitutes the fantasies which may not appear to be so on the surface. All of the fantasies are intrinsically and necessarily masochistic, because they are a sexualization of emasculation anxiety, of which androphilia, hyper-femininity, male inadequacy and so forth, will tend to be the supreme objects (it is for example a “femininity” through emasculation anxiety). The key point here to understand is that whilst one’s association to emasculation is manifestly productive of anxiety, a fantasy is only perceived as humiliating, in so far that a situation can be recognized as humiliating. That is to say that the association to emasculation is itself distressing, yet distress itself is not necessarily thematized in the fantasy. For masochistic sexual fetishes in general, like the spanking fetishist, our commonsense instinctively recognizes the act (of spanking) as a situation of distress, not to mention the physical pain. But for us, the association of oneself to femininity will display it’s constituting anxiety in a theme we instinctively recognize as of humiliation, otherwise the anxiety is obscured from view.

The very anxiety displayed recognisably in a situation of humiliation (right), is what also makes one's general association to femininity arousing in the picture on the left. The individual's fantasy niches will determine the visibility or explicitness of the underlying masochism.  

In Addition: The Idiom of The "Faceless Man". 

There are usually two main objects of concern for subjects of such fantasies, being the superficial appearance of feminine self identity and androphilia. These of course are routinely going to be the more powerful symbols of emasculation anxiety, and must be understood as such. It is not the case that one is actually sexually aroused by men or by "being female", but rather that one is sexually aroused by the very idea of being (associated to) such. Again it can not be more emphasized, that whilst these two predominant symbols of emasculation anxiety will routinely and understandably be given particular importance, they are not representative of the fetish itself, which is to say that the fetish is not androphilic nor is crossgender. In understanding our sexual experience, "androphilia" and "being female" are misleading abstractions, which obscure the actual autophilia of masochistic emasculation.


  1. You have been lately ranting a lot in Jack Molay's blog, so I thought I would pay a visit to your profile posts. It seems you are under the impression that all or most transgenders are under this "masochistic fetish" that you talk of- as if this desire to emasculate themselves sexually or otherwise is what drives most transgenders towards a gender dysphoria. But my friend, that is not true.
    What you describe is actually not what being female is all about; it is a typical "sissyfication" fantasy and is not by any means limited to just transgenders or women. Many men also may be secretly having it. Being sissy or having emasculation fetishes is not what makes all or most transgenders feel female inside. It might be a fantasy of some transgenders or crossdressers but it is not what constitutes transsexualism.

    1. Hi Abhirup,

      Fetishism is simply one way in which one can develop a dysphoric psychology. A dysphoria on part of masochistic emasculation fetishist will routinely be derived from their fetishism. It will provide the psychological conditions for internalized affiliations.

    2. You are not focusing on the point I am trying to make wxhluyp. What I say is that fetishism may apply to some crossdreamers and also some women or even some men. But that is not what the entire concept of transsexualism is about.
      A person can be a fetishist the way you describe and still not feel he needs to be a female. Conversely,a non-fetishist individual who is born male may have a compulsive need to be a female. You need to understand this particular aspect before making these generalizations.
      Also, I would request you to write in very clear precise language that is easy for us to understand. You really need to learn how to express yourself in a manner that most people can understand. I understand the words you're using here but the way they are used makes no sense.Most of the time your language appears too technical or philosophical and alien for the readers. That way, you will never be able to get your point across.

  2. Hi again.

    I am sure we are in agreement here. There have been many terms and ways which this specific fetishistic experience has been represented, where "crossdreaming" differs is in that it has been created with an ideological intention to reduce the fetishism to adjunct transgender properties. If "crossdreaming" doesn't represent the fetish, then it is superfluous in relation to "transgenderism".

    Yes I agree, and despite Jack Molay's manipulation, I have always stated that the psychology of identification as a gender has nothing inherently to do with this fetish. That the fetish doesn't constitute transgenderism in general, but rather that a dysphoric psychology on part of masochistic emasculation fetishist will routinely be derived from their fetishism. It will provide the psychological conditions for internalized affiliations.

    In addition, there is an important point in the potential of a transgenderism in the psychological conditions in which the fetish is produced. There is a parallel to the cuckold fetishist in the masochistic sexualization of anxieties regarding sexual inadequacy, where very rarely is the cuckold actually sexually inadequate. Whereby in this fetish, it is the same, in that very rarely do the fears of emasculation draw from the individual actually being unmanly, let alone positively feminine.

    I try to write as clearly as possible, and feel that much technical terms are necessary for representing a technical subject. I could try and rephrase specific things if you like.